THE MEN Vs. WOMEN ISSUE

Here is an eternal unresolved issue. Many had attempted to address it and nobody could ever conclude it, to the satisfaction of both parties. From time to time, this continues to come up. Plenty of ink, paper, energy and time had been wasted on the issue.

I am not a chauvinist. I respect women. I like them a lot. I believe women are the best creation of God.

The Creator is indeed very smart. He proves the advait (non dual) using the dvait (dual). When man and woman combine, fullness results. ‘One’ forms out of two. Similar to Puruksha and Prakruti, the Ying and the Yang and the Raga and the Tala, the two combine to form the real complete one.

Woman is the seat of creation. That gives solemn divinity to her. She is the Devi on whose womb life is formed and from it, delivered. She is the mother, the eternal ‘Amma”.

Who is great, man or woman? I believe men have more strength than women. In every field where physical strength matters, we see men deliver more than women. Feature by feature men are strong (and of course, they are coarse) whereas, feminity manifests in women. Beauty lies truly in women. Both men and women accept that.

Women have real patience (Kshamaya dharitri - as patient as mother Earth) Women do more Karma than men. They have the ability of multitasking. They have higher longevity (for doing still more Karma, may be). They do not complicate thought process. They can filter out the unwanted thoughts better than men. Men call this wonderful ability of women as ‘one-dimensional’.

Men are lazy and proud, in spite of the ability and strength to do more and big. Men have complicated thought process. They have no patience and get irritated very fast. They refuse to adjust with reality, many times. Many often, men go about humbling the women. It is a hobby they enjoy.

Women can live without men, if need be. For men, it is unthinkable. The most pathetic site we see is an old man struggling to live when he loses his wife. Vice versa, it is not all that bad. Women simply adjust.

Men live for women. Women are almost the raison d’etre for men. But will they ever accept it? That is where his pride sticks out. Men say ‘it is below man’ to accept that. Now, what is that?

In spite of all those good qualities going for them, women are willing to be subjugated. Men take full advantage of that. That is the sore thumb of every society, every religion.

Having said all these, one feels that, similar to the river seeking and finding salvation in the sea, woman attains ‘poornata’ (completeness) only after she finds her man and merges with him (something the feminists are unwilling to accept). It is where the strength and the suppleness combine, where unity gets created. And the oneness happens.

To that, let us say three cheers!