



Towards startup promotion and growth, in her budget speech for the year, on 01/02/2025, the Union Finance Minister had announced the setting up of a new ‘Fund of Funds’ with fresh contribution of Rs 10,000 crore. This is in addition to already existing contribution of Rs 10,000 crore. Being a ‘fund of fund’ this will go into as contribution to alternate investment funds (AIF) across the country, towards specific startup funding purposes. This is a good move as the union Government’s contribution, executed through SIDBI, will combine with equivalent or more contributions from other funding bodies and thus the overall funds available for startups in India could be much larger.
Considering the fact that Startup funding in India had come down drastically in the last 2 years, this could boost up the funding possibilities for startups. This is good news for many startups who are in startup to standup & standup to scaleup phase of their existence.
With specific reference to Kerala, we see is reduced commitment of SIDBI towards the state. The SIDBI’s setup in Kerala had been scaled down to a great extent which reflects much lesser commitment of SIDBI to the state. On the other hand, hard pressed for capital, GoK and its institutions such as KSUM, KSIDC etc are not in a position to avail such union government schemes due the sheer incapability of offering matching funds. Therefore how much of the union budget announcement will help Kerala startups, is a mute question. Just see the fact below:
In the earlier announced Fund of Fund scheme worth INR 10,000 Crores, 144 VC Funds that got sanction from SIDBI.These VCs committed INR 86000 Crores of which Fund of Funds contribution is only 11147 cr. Active private sector VCF is the reason for such huge participation. How ever, there was not even a single VC in the above list from Kerala. In Kerala, nobody, neither government nor private sector, is interested for such initiatives.
In the freshly announced Funds of Funds worth INR 10,000 Crores, I am not sure how many governmental & private funds from Kerala would participate. When the government had done well in Startup ecosystem building in Kerala for the last 10 plus years, if they do not avail such union budget benefits, it would not only be a big opportunity loss but also a gross disservice to the startups that it helped create.
With such (lack of) nurturing, what would the plight of Kerala Startups?
എം.ടി യുടെ ഏകദേശം എല്ലാ ബുക്കുകളും ഞാൻ ചെറുപ്പത്തിലെ വായിച്ചിരുന്നു. അദ്ദേഹം കഥ പറയുന്നതിൽ വിരുതുള്ള ആളാണെന്നതിൽ (master storyteller) ഒരു സംശയുവുമില്ലായിരുന്നു എങ്കിലും എനിക്കദ്ദേഹത്തെ അത്രക്കും ഇഷ്ടമില്ലായിരുന്നു. അതിനു കാരണം അദ്ദേഹത്തിന്റെ പുസ്തകങ്ങൾ വായിച്ചു കഴിഞ്ഞാൽ വല്ലാത്ത ഒരു മരവിപ്പനുഭവപ്പെടുമായിരുന്നു എന്നതു തന്നെ. അത്രയ്ക്കും വിഷാദവും ഏകാന്തതയും ദുഃഖവും ആ പുസ്തകങ്ങൾ എന്നിൽ ഉളവാക്കിയിരുന്നു. എന്റെ ടീനേജ് പ്രായത്തിൽ അത്രയ്ക്കും അനുസ്വനം വേണ്ടിയിരുന്നില്ല എന്നതായിരിക്കും, ഒരു പക്ഷേ, ശരി.
നിർമാല്യം സിനിമ ഇറങ്ങിയപ്പോൾ കാണാൻ സാധിച്ചില്ല. അന്നെനിക്ക് 14 വയസായിരുന്നു. ഏതാണ്ടു 10 വർഷങ്ങൾക്ക് ശേഷം ജോലിയൊക്കെ ആയതിനു ശേഷം TV-യിലാണത് കണ്ടെതെന്നു തോന്നുന്നു. അനുഭവ ദുഃഖങ്ങളുടെ മോഹാലസ്യത്തിൽ (trance) ദൈവത്തിന്റെ കഴുത്തു വെട്ടിയിടുന്ന വെളിച്ചപ്പാടിനെ അവതരിപ്പിക്കാൻ ഇന്നല്ല, അന്നും ആർക്കും ധൈര്യം വരില്ല, എം.ടിക്കല്ലാതെ. കാരണം, അദ്ദേഹത്തിന്റെ ഒരു ചെയ്തിയിലും ഒരു മലയാളിയും ഒരിക്കലും കുറ്റം കണ്ടിരുന്നില്ല എന്നതു തന്നെ.
1987-ൽ ആണെന്നു തോന്നുന്നു, കമ്പനിയുടെ സെയിൽസ് റിവ്യൂ ചെന്നൈ റീജിനൽ ഓഫീസിൽ കഴിഞ്ഞു സഹപ്രവർത്തകനോടൊപ്പം എറണാകുളത്തേക്ക് മടങ്ങുമ്പോൾ ട്രിവാൻഡ്രം മെയിലിൽ മൂന്നു പേർക്കുളള എ.സി കുപ്പെയിൽ മൂന്നാമൻ എം.ടി ആയിരുന്നു. ആദ്യം ഒരു പരിഭ്രമമാണു തോന്നിയെങ്കിലും പരിചയപ്പെടുകയും പിന്നീട് കുറെ നേരം സംസാരിച്ചിരിക്കാനും സാധിച്ചു. സമയമെടുത്ത് അളന്നുകുറിച്ച വാക്കുകളിൽ ഉത്തരം തന്നും പലപ്പോഴും ഉത്തരം തരാതെ മിണ്ടാതിരുന്നും അദ്ദേഹം സംസാരത്തിൽ ഭാഗഭാക്കായി. തടസ്സമില്ലാതെ സാധാരണ നിലയിൽ അദ്ദേഹത്തോട് സസാരിക്കാൻ കഴിഞ്ഞു എന്നതു ഒരു വലിയ കാര്യമായി ഇന്ന് ഇപ്പോൾ തോന്നുന്നു. ഏതോ സിനിമയുടെ കാര്യത്തിന് വന്നിട്ട് ചെന്നൈയിൽ നിന്നും ആലുവയിലേക്ക് സഞ്ചരിക്കുകയായിരുന്നു അദ്ദേഹം.
കൂടെയുണ്ടായിരുന്ന ഏന്റെ സഹപ്രവർത്തകനായ അനിൽ പാലത്തിങ്കലും നല്ല ഒരു വയനക്കാരനായിരുന്നു. വി.കെ.എൻ, സക്കറിയ തുടങ്ങിയവരെപ്പറ്റിയാണ് അനിൽ അദ്ദേഹത്തോട് സംസാരിച്ചത്.
അദ്ദേഹം പണ്ടെങ്ങോ എഴുതിയ ഒരു യാത്രാവിവരണത്തിൽ ഹാൻഡ്ലഗേജിൽ ദിനേശ്ബീഡിയുടെ കെട്ടുകൾ കണ്ടു അമേരിക്കൻ എയർപോർട്ടിൽ കസ്റ്റംസ് ഓഫീഷ്യൽസ് അദ്ദേഹത്തെ ചോദ്യം ചെയ്തയിനെപ്പറ്റി ഞാൻ വായിച്ചിരുന്നു. അതെങ്ങനെ കൈകാര്യം ചെയ്തു എന്ന് ചോദിച്ചപ്പോൾ ബീഡി വലിച്ചു കാണിച്ചുകൊടുത്തു എന്ന് മറുപടി തന്നു.
കൂടുതൽ ബട്ടണുകൾ അദ്ദേഹമിടാത്ത ഷർട്ടിനുള്ളിൽ ശരീരത്തിൽ നെടുനീളത്തിനു diagonal ആയി ഒരു തടിപ്പുണ്ടായിരുന്നു. ഞാനതിനെപറ്റി ചോദിച്ചപ്പോൾ കുറച്ച് വർഷങ്ങൾക്ക് മുൻപു വയറു കീറി ഒരു മേജർ ശസ്ത്രക്രിയ ചെയ്യേണ്ടി വന്നുവെന്നും അതിന്റെ തയ്യൽപാടാണെന്നും പറഞ്ഞു.
വി.എസ്. ഖണ്ഡേക്കർ എഴുതിയ ‘യയാതി’ കൃതിയുടെ ഇംഗ്ലീഷ് പരിഭാഷ മുമ്പേ വായിച്ചിരുന്ന ഞാൻ പിൽക്കാലത്ത് എം. ടി യുടെ ‘രണ്ടാമൂഴം’ നോവലും വായിച്ചിരുന്നു. അന്നു മുതൽ എന്റെ മനസ്സിൽ തോന്നിയിരുന്നത് എം.ടി, യയാതി എന്ന കൃതിയിൽ നിന്നും ഒരു ‘inspiration’ രണ്ടാമൂഴം എഴുതാൻ എടുത്തിട്ടുണ്ടാകും എന്നാണ്. ഈ ചോദ്യം ഒരു മുഖവുരയോടു കൂടി ഞാൻ അദ്ദേഹത്തോട് കുറച്ച് പേടിയോടെ തന്നെ ചോദിച്ചു. കുറെ നേരം ഒന്നും മിണ്ടാതെ അദ്ദേഹം പറഞ്ഞു, “യയാതി വായിച്ചപ്പോൾ ഇന്ത്യൻ പുരാണങ്ങളിലെ പല കഥാപാത്രങ്ങൾക്കും പലതും പറയാനുണ്ടാകും എന്ന് തോന്നിയിരുന്നു.”
Yes എന്നോ No എന്നോ അദ്ദേഹം പറഞ്ഞില്ല. പക്ഷേ മറുപടി അർദ്ധഗർഭമായിരുന്നു.
അതിനാലാവാം എല്ലാവരും പൊണ്ണത്തടിയൻ പൊട്ടൻ എന്ന് കരുതിയിരുന്ന ഭീമസേനനെ ഒരു ചിന്തിക്കുന്ന വികാരജീവിയായി അദ്ദേഹം രണ്ടാമൂഴത്തിലൂടെ മാറ്റിയെടുത്തത്. അത് തന്നെയല്ലേ മലബാറുകാർ ചതിയൻ എന്ന് വെറുപ്പോടെ വിളിച്ചിരുന്ന ചന്തുവിന്റെ പരിവേഷം പാടേ അദ്ദേഹം മാറ്റി എഴുതിയത്?
അസാമാന്യമായ സർഗശക്തിയുള്ള ഒരു കഥാകാരനു മാത്രമേ ഇങ്ങനെയൊരു ഒരു വീക്ഷണം സാധ്യാമാകൂ, തീർച്ച.
ഒരു കഥ ഉള്ളിൽ കിടന്നു മഥിക്കുമ്പോൾ ആരോടും ഒന്നും മിണ്ടാതെ, അതിനെ പേനതുമ്പിലുടെ പുസ്തക രൂപത്തിലാക്കി വായനക്കാരുടെ മനസ്സിളക്കിപ്പിക്കുന്ന ഇതിവൃത്തമാക്കി മാറ്റാനുള്ള എം.ടിയുടെ കഴിവിനെ നമിക്കുന്നു. ആ നോവലുകളിലൂടെ, തിരക്കഥകളിലൂടെ, എഴുത്തുകളിലുടെ, സിനിമ സംവിധാനത്തിലൂടെ മലയാള ഭാഷ ഉള്ളടത്തോളം കാലം, അതിൽ എം.ടി. വാസുദേവൻ നായരുടെ കാൽപ്പാടുകൾ ഉണ്ടാകും.
At the beginning, he was in foetal position, in the cool comfort of the womb of his mother. He was regularly getting the food and water thru the umbilical cord.
Education is universally accepted as the means to progress, improved living conditions and better culture. It begets knowledge, skills, better behaviour and social upliftment.
Any proper investment done in education has always yielded good returns. Can anyone think of the planet without educational infrastructure and services?
Progress in technology brought about a virtual world where people could meet and communicate without moving. Online delivered content almost as if being offline. Covid 19 and the closure of the world consolidated the online presence, particularly in education. In fact being online helped to ensure that no one lost out their educational years during the pandemic.
Byju’s (the company is officially known as Think and Learn Private Limited) was in existence even before Covid 19. Byju Ravindran, the promoter, has been an excellent tuition master when it came to entrance coaching for professional courses. He has cashed this reputation to scale up his venture with assistance from technology and that was the formation of Byju’s, the online educational platform.
Due to his reputation as an excellent entrance coach, Byju was always in news. The success of Khan’s Academy, a pioneer in online classes, motivated venture funds to invest heavily in Byju’s. With such funding, Byju, in his round T shirt & Jeans ( a la Zackerburg), became a poster boy in Indian Start-up scene.
With the large mass of K12 student in India, the funders thought that Byju’s would succeed. The company recruited from IITs and IIMs and formed a huge workforce, both in content production and marketing. Venture funds received were burned in marketing blitzkriegs including sponsoring Indian cricket teams for years. Leading actors became Byju’s brand ambassadors. Covid was a blessing in disguise for the company where online education boomed and the pundits predicted the online makeover of education from offline. In all, Byju’s got funded to the tune of USD 8 Billion! The company went into a dizzying market cap of USD 25 Billion.
Alas, Byju’s aggressive and unethical marketing strategies bombed. It ended up with huge litigations from customers across India. It could never reach its revenue targets. Scandels emerged. To compensate that, the company went into acquiring spree and ended up in buying about 20 companies in online & offline education space. Even that did not help the company improve its revenue expectations. Most of its investments went into black hole. Challenges with its auditing firm came out. Funders started blaming Byju and went after him personally. Good talent jumped out of the company and others got sacked. The protagonist wasn’t seen being in India lately.
The news appeared on 14/01/24, shows Byju’s market cap being brought down to USD 1 billion by BlackRock. It is really not the end of the news. We could be hearing about Byju’s more, but not positively. It looks as if even a miracle may not be able to save Byju’s. At best, it could end up as a case study in B. Schools.
Let us start with science, about the creation and existence of our universe.
The Big Bang theory explains how the universe got created from a single point by high density and temperature. The whole thing is believed to have exploded from the single point and thereafter it started expanding ever since. The expansion continues, still.
NASA describes black hole as a space with such intense gravity that it even it pulls in the light into it. In the black hole, everything is squeezed into such a tiny space, into a single dot.
The quantum Physics hypothesizes that ALL elementary particles of matter are closed loops of waveform, with intense energy residing in it. By this hypothesis, matter & energy are identified to be two forms of one itself. This is now getting promulgated as ‘unified theory’. The latest experiments on this at CERN & other labs had generated excitement to all science lovers, world over.
Let us now dwell a while on the Indian spiritual explanation of the situation before the creation:
Nasadiya Sukta explains the origin of universe (verse 19:129 of Rig Ved). It says;
“There was neither non-existence nor existence then. Neither the realm of space nor the sky beyond. There was neither death nor immortality, neither night nor day, none breathed, for it was windless, and there was absolutely nothing beyond. In to the void, the force of heat came into being”
It then asks, “what stirred, where, in whose protection?”
It doesn’t ascribe the stirring to the Gods, as it says elsewhere that even Gods came after the creation.
The puranic Hindu cosmology view asserts that the universe is created, destroyed, and re-created in an eternally repetitive series of cycles.
The repeated (cyclic) creation, destruction & re-creation of universes is not asserted by science, yet. How do we explain the big bang theory and the black hole in the context of Hindu cosmology view? Or is it all an illusion (maya) of the mind and the sense organs?
Isn’t creation, destruction & re-creation similar to birth, death and re-birth?
Does it help connecting the dots? Aren’t we also part of the cycle?
Does it confuse us? Or, does it endorses Heinrich Heins, when he says, “sleep is good, death is better of course, the best thing would have been never born at all?
The year 2023 is about to close. In many ways, it had been a critical year of the century for the Planet so far.
By late 2019, Wuhan reported an extraordinary respiratory illness akin to SARS and China went about on a war footing to address it but without telling the world. Spread it did, and took every nation unaware, as we watched how the governments combated it. It came to be legally known as Covid 19 (short form of Corona Virus Disease 2019) & the pandemic did have ‘thandav’ across the planet.
As per World Health Organisation (WHO), as of date, globally, there have been 77,28,38,745 confirmed cases of COVID-19, including 69,88,679 deaths. As I write this, a total of 13,59,57,21,080 vaccine doses have been administered on the people. This had been one hell of an anti-pandemic endeavour for the world. The way vaccines got formulated underwent sea change, to the extent that the scientists who developed the Covid vaccine unconventionally, are declared as the Nobel Prize winners for the year 2023.
As I write this, in this part of the world, another variant of Covid, JN.1, is now playing tricks. How far & how destructive this be, will be known only by the beginning quarter of the new year.
Yes, the year 2020 & 2021 fully belonged to the Pandemic. The year 2022 went this way, that way and only by 2023 that the world relaxed. The new normals of life slowly started receding back but with abundant caution, and now, hybrid life is a gift of Covid 19 to mankind.
Personally, the year 2023 was a year of transition for me. It is when I decided to end my deep association with the professional and social bodies that I was actively part of. Thus, my TiE Kerala, KMA & Rotary activities fully came to a standstill. What is now left is ISTD where again, my intense involvement had well reduced. Being in the thick of it all for more than a quarter century, I was afraid that I would display ‘withdrawal’ tendencies but the impact wasn’t as heavy and today one is very comfortable with the current state of affairs. My routine acts like teaching at CUSAT, keynote deliveries, mentoring, blogging etc. continued without any hitch in 2023.
I may want to concentrate on two main things for me for the future; travel and writing. In the year 2023, my reading got doubled and so did my travelling; Hong Kong, Andamans Island, Kolkotta, Jaipur travels figured in the year. The disappointment was not visiting Chola/Pandya edifices in Tamil Nadu, though it was very well in the plans for 2023. One hopes, it should fructify in the year 2024.
I am also hopeful to finish 2 books during the coming year, first one in English is 99 percent ready and the other already well formed in the mind. Procrastination being what it is, still keeping the fingers crossed 😌
I would like to hear from you about the year that was for you and your plans for the year in the anvil.
Here is wishing you the very best of the season! You take care.
By late November, each year, festival in temples of Kerala begins, mostly with the Guruvayur temple Ekadashi fest. And for close to 4 months thereafter, thousands of Hindu temples across in the state of Kerala will celebrate the festivities independently.
On 27/10/2013, I had an opportunity to moderate a conversation with Prof. Stephen Zhang, professor of Entrepreneurship & Strategy of Adelaide Business School, Australia, involving invited local entrepreneurs at Xavier Institute of Management & Entrepreneurship (XIME), Kalamassery, Kochi.
Very often we see full page advertisements published by governments of States in newspapers across the nation, including even the vernacular dailies. The States of Delhi, Rajasthan, UP, Telangana & Punjab are most prominent among them. Staying in Kerala, one doesn’t know if our government publish such ads in newspapers outside Kerala?
1. Train the sales team on attitude, responses, telephone / email / messaging etiquette and customer centricity
All these years, one was only hearing and reading about Kalpathy Chariot Festival (Ratholsavam) but the urge to see it and experience it finally materialised this year. So, my wife & I, off we went to Kalpathy on the 16th November which was the crescendo day of the festivities. A good friend, Prof. (Dr) Rajeswari who is a resident of Kalpathy ‘Agraharam’ (the Tamil name of a traditional Brahmin village) played the role of a perfect host,
Based on the invitation of the Dean of SBIL, Prof. Dr. N. Krishna Kumar to deliver a session on “Higher Leadership for Organisational Excellence” at this institute on the forenoon of 4th December, 2023 and also to partake in the Panel discussion with Dr Anil K Khandelwal, former CMD of Bank of Baroda & Shri. Arun K Jain, Sr. Vice President of SBI Capital, moderated by Dr KK by the same evening on the theme, ‘Leading in the age of disruption & transformation’.
Narayanan Unny hails from a traditional farming family in Chittoor, Palakkad District of Kerala.
I had known him since mid-80’s, that was when he approached me seeking business partnership from Hindustan Computers Limited that I headed in Kerala at that time, which he set up at Calicut & Palakkad and ran fairly well for many years.
His father’s death was a turning point in his life. He decided to go back to rice farming that his dad was following. For more than 150 years, the family owned 15+ acre paddy field. Rather than being a ‘Palakkadan Matta Rice’ cultivator, he thought radically to revive the Navara rice cultivation, that was endemic to the place, but has been practically extinct.
Navara rice has this enormous medicinal properties and traditional Ayurveda greatly depends on it for the treatment of cervical spondylosis, low backache, paralysis, rheumatoid arthritis & neuromuscular disorders.
The book, ‘Navara Rice - A success Story’ published by ‘Trust for Advancement in Agricultural Science’, New Delhi headed by Dr. RS Paroda, briefs his struggle and endeavour of more than 2 decades. While a normal farmer would have given up, Unny, with great efforts and with the goodwill and assistance from family, friends, scientists, policy makers and industry bodies; revived Navara rice and established its supply chain as a true organic food.
Unny & I have always been in touch and are good family friends. Though fully aware of his acts, I had not considered the true value of Unny’s endeavor until I read this book and then for the next half an hour I let my mind go through his trials to establish Navara Eco Farm. It was indeed a committed but tough act.
Narayanan Unny, the one man army’s determination, patience, perseverance and toil to revive a practically extinct rice variety and the successful outcome of establishing the most valued Navara rice back in to the shelves, for people & ayurvedics to use it, for deriving immense health benefits from it; is an epic story by itself.
There is a Tamil novel by Jayakanthan, titled, ‘Sila nerangalil sila manithargal’. Loosely translated, it says, ‘some persona in some moments’. To me, Narayanan Unny is the really the man of the moment.
May the planet beget more Narayan Unny’s!
In order to entice/retain customers (even if they are a dissatisfied lot), and continue to increase the yield per client, ecommerce companies resort to many tactics that many a time, are identified as unethical (at times, illegal). Some of them are:
1. Subscription Trap
When you want to unsubscribe, the site will redirect you through a series of pages, thereby tiring you and making it technically impossible for you to unsubscribe
2. False Urgency
Creating, of course falsely, a sense of the urgency in your mind. E.g: while booking hotel room, message popping out saying, “ only 1 room left”
3. Basket Sneaking
While checking out, including additional items in your shopping cart without you knowing and/or without your consent
4. Confirm Shaming
Using an audio or video response to create a sense of shame / fear / guilt in the buyer. For e.g: when you drop a product from the cart, a video response coming from the screen making you feel cringe feeling guilty or shame
5. Forced Action
Forcing the user to buy additional items. For e.g: auto check mark for flight insurance while booking an online air ticket.
6. Privacy Zuckering
When ticking ‘terms & conditions’ during an online purchase, the same term sheet would have included a line taking your your consent for sharing your data, without your realising it. Many terms & conditions are laborious and come in fine print and buyers don’t actually read while buying online !
7. Interface Interference
The design of the site that manipulates user interface, depending on the system’s buyer knowledge E.g: a) highlights certain specific information; and (b) obscures other relevant information
8. Bait & Switch
Advertising a particular outcome based on user’s action such as luring customers into using a product under attractive terms, then change the conditions once engaged, forcing them to accept the outcome, usually a paid service.
9. Drip Pricing
The pricing elements are not revealed upfront. Minimal pricing information is available but when you click to buy, other pricing elements are loaded to it.
10. Disguised Advertisement
Hiding additional inputs from buyers until they are committed to making a purchase. E.g: disguised advt. on the software download page to boost ad revenue, such as, displaying advertisements with a prominent download button that closely resembles the actual download button for the desired software.
These are called dark patterns, and these tactics are employed by e-commerce sites when you reach out to it for buying. Many Governments, now also India, are enacting regulations against it including punitive measures.
Long ago, while employed, a colleague of mine in product marketing used to mock at me regularly, telling me that many sales managers with whom I am communicating, feel that I am not in touch with reality, whenever I send them new campaign directions. Funnily, I never heard this from any sales personnel directly within the company.
A Marwari entrepreneur friend in the same business vertical as I was, whenever we used to meet, told me me that he genuinely feel for me and my company but my way of handing a particular principal vendor was incorrect. (It was another thing that he also had this vendor as his supplier)
A young and enthusiastic auditor friend with a good background, an associate in the movement that we are part of, used to shower me all the respect on one-on-one basis, whenever got an opportunity in a crowd with me, cut jokes at my expenses
An advocate member of the club that I had chartered, used to listen to my speeches in the club intently but once it is over, will publicly remark in the end, “what else is expected of you, as usual, you did that long winding speech”
In my professional, personal and social life, I had come across enough of such associates/friends (?) trying to upset me or ridicule me with such comments, assessing me incorrectly, trying to manipulate the reality around me, I used to wonder, ‘why they do so’?
Upon my reading and research over the period, I had realised that these are the envious narcissistic gaslighters, doing it to upset my self esteem, thus trying to off balance me, making me think that something is wrong with me.
Gaslighting is defined as a manipulative tactic employed by someone to gain power & control over the other, planting seeds of uncertainty thus affecting other’s self esteem through the process of self-doubt. When it is done to you by egoistic people who are jealous of your abilities, they turn out to be Narcissistic Gaslighters.
Through outright lying, manipulating reality, scapegoating and coercion, the gaslighter tries to intentionally distort your reality, making you feel that what you are seeing or feeling isn't real. This could even affect your mental wellness.
The gaslighters try to show that they love / respect you but their intent is to serve themselves, whether it is to gain more power or control or to feel that they are better than others.
How do you handle the envious, narcissistic, gaslighter?
When you recognise one, as much as possible, be away from him. You consciously stand firm in your truth even if he is trying to use communication to make you self doubt. Do not indulge him or try to outsmart him, that is what he is waiting to pile on you further. By increasing the support system around you and sharing the truth with them you can help yourself retain sanity.
Beware of the gaslighters, they are toxic!
In every domestic travel (be it bus, train or plane) that I do, I get deeply perturbed by the haste, hurry and disorderliness displayed by the passengers. They hurry into the vehicle as if others are going to take away their reserved seats. Even before the end of the journey, and before the vehicle comes to halt, they jump up, pick up their luggage and stand, showing big urgency in getting out!
The domestic transports are always noisy with people talking to each other in high decibels, passengers listening to loud music/video in their mobile phones without earphones and the like. One aways notice lack of calmness & patience and the body language, that of perpetual restlessness!
Even outside, in driving, in the usage of public facilities & conveniences, the lack of civility is tremendously visible. The hustle and din prevails completely on the Indian in whatever he does. We behave as if the world is going to end imminently before which we must complete the act!
In many parts of the developed world that I had travelled, I always found a sense of orderliness in the behaviour of its citizens, be it travelling in public transports, driving vehicles, shopping, eating in restaurants, walking & crossing roads etc. They strictly adhere to the system, rules and the policy framework. All these are built with very high level of precautions that give assurance to the denizens of highest levels of safety & security to their life and properties. And they calmly go about with their life in orderliness.
I used to wonder, why we are built the way we are. A majority of Indians live in misery and the demography is so huge for a country of India’s size. It is like too little for too many people wanting things, and that insecurity creeps into all our acts which results in all these wanton behaviour. Though large percentage of population had progressed out of poverty, the ‘poverty in the mind’ continues to haunt everyone.
And the irritation grows more when we hear the myopic leaders tell us how good we are, what ‘sanskriti’ we had and why we should not ape the developed world. Mired in superstitions and pseudoscience, they tell us how we ‘contributed’ to the progress of the world. They intricately mix up religion & caste with the polity, to keep us tied in as parochial clans, despising others.
It is clear that unless we free our mind, consciously get out the sense of misery and allowing to see others with empathy & positivity, we shall continue with our clannish hooligan behaviour.
“The number of transistors on a microchip doubles every two years” - Gordon Moore, 1965
By 17th century, the Dutch (Holland) had taken over the control of the sea trade with India. This they achieved through Vereenigde Oost-Indische Compagnie (VOC) or simply, the Dutch East India Company. In fact the Company, established in 1602, was the first multinational corporation of the Planet.